Help! Kissing and hugging is missing from our sex life
LOVE doctor Gabrielle Morrissey explains how to bring the intimacy back to sex.
Q: My wife and I are in our late 50s and have regular sex but we never kiss or cuddle.
I miss the kind of affection and desire we had for each other in the early years of our marriage.
We've been together now for nearly 25 years, have grown kids, and while we enjoy sex together, and both climax, it seems mechanical, especially since we never kiss.
It's more like sex is scratching a mutual itch in a way. Is there anything I can do?
A: It's a funny phenomenon, the disappearing kiss, but not uncommon.
Kissing shouldn't be underestimated.
Next to the genitalia, the lips have more nerve endings than any other part of the body.
The lips are incredibly sensitive and that is part of the appeal of kissing, along with all the passionate connotations we have with it.
It's rather sad when the kiss fades out of a relationship.
It doesn't always happen, but many couples do lose kissing as part of their sexual encounters together and as a result, lose a lot of the passion they once shared together.
Re-introduce the passionate kiss as you would share a first kiss with someone new, or when you were with your partner for the first time. Slowly. Be sure to romance her first.
Prioritise the relationship between you and decide you're going to spend time together as a couple. Work on touching more, cuddling, being affectionate, increase the number of little pecks you give each other, or at least you give her.
Work your way up to kissing again and the next time you have sex that isn't rushed.
Keep on kissing, and tell her how much you love it.
Positive praise will be met with more positive reception and soon enough kissing will be in your love life again - this time to stay.